Today’s I’Diem – “A Different Outcome”
August 24, 2017
Baking and laughing: the unexpected results of failure.
Author: deborahatwithoutissue
Writer, creative writing facilitator and amateur flamenco dancer, this is my first attempt at blogging. I write every day, even if it is a few pages of rubbish. I consider reading at least one poem a day to be therapy. Nothing feeds the soul like a good scone.
The Art of Not Sharing: maintaining creativity in a connected world.
August 22, 2017
Hello lovely people In his book Thinking, Fast and Slow, Daniel Kahneman presented a ‘thought experiment’: what if you go on holiday and you know that at the end of the holiday all your photos or videos would be destroyed or deleted. How would that change your experience of your holiday? It’s a thought-provoking question … More The Art of Not Sharing: maintaining creativity in a connected world.
Silent Desire, Silent Loss – Update
August 17, 2017
Just to update on my June post on male fertility issues – a much needed study into the emotional cost to men who live with fertility issues or childlessness. You can listen to Dr Alan Dolan on Radio 4’s Thinking Allowed here A link to his academic paper is on the Resources page. It’s good to … More Silent Desire, Silent Loss – Update
Support Group – new dates!
August 9, 2017
I thought I’d let you know about the new dates for “Write to Create” – the creative support group for people wishing to explore their thoughts and feelings about involuntary childlessness in a supportive and creative space. No prior experience with writing or other creative pursuits is required. The group is for anyone of any … More Support Group – new dates!
The End of Hope: How a cake helped me let go of my dream to have a child
July 29, 2017
Hello lovely friends. This month’s post (well, I just squeezed it into July!) is longer than my usual. Nevertheless, I hope it will be helpful and perhaps will shed some light on the power and the potential tyranny of hope and how we can find inspiration, in unexpected ways, to transform a stale hope for … More The End of Hope: How a cake helped me let go of my dream to have a child
Enough already with the vacuuming!
June 17, 2017
A new thought today on the i-Diem page, inspired by the patterns on the wall I clocked whilst doing my least favourite household task – vacuuming. I’m easily distracted and, a bit like Garfield, a sunbeam is enough excuse for me to stop what I’m doing.
Silent Desire, Silent Loss: the conversation many childless men are not having
June 13, 2017
Hello lovely people. Sunday 18 June will be Father’s Day in the UK. For a couple of weeks now I’ve been receiving emails from companies professing to have ‘the perfect gift for Dad’ and I’ve noticed the signs outside pubs saying, ‘Book now for Father’s Day.’ It has always struck me that Father’s Day seems … More Silent Desire, Silent Loss: the conversation many childless men are not having
Support Group – Write to Create
June 2, 2017
The next session for Write to Create – creative support for people living with childlessness – will be held tomorrow next to Preston Park Station, Brighton. Easily accessible from areas in Sussex, Surrey, Kent and London. The group aims to provide a supportive and creative space for people to talk, explore, share and get creative. … More Support Group – Write to Create
Moments of Emergence
June 1, 2017
Hello lovely people Well, the season has finally turned and we, in the northern hemisphere, are entering early summer with (we all hope!) the promise of warmer days ahead. Despite my horticultural ignorance and negligence, the plants in my garden are sprouting, springing and flowering again and, at the risk of breaking into song, … More Moments of Emergence
Bits and Pieces
April 28, 2017
Hello lovely people An update on Write to Create Workshops, an inspiring evening at a dementia charity launch and a poetry gift courtesy of Poetry Ireland. Write to Create Last week’s Write to Create support workshop for involuntary childlessness centred around the idea of Emergence and Discovery. Instead of focussing on the ‘shoulds’ and ‘musts’ … More Bits and Pieces
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